The Struggle Is Real

The Struggle is Real

Modern Parenting

The Struggle is Real - Let go & Let God

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Let Go & Let God

Parents today are often criticized for raising a generation of children who struggle to do things on their own, who return home from college incapable of earning a living or making decisions. The trouble with hovering excessively over children is that it stifles their potential for growing into confident adults who can step out into an unknown world and face the consequences of their decisions responsibly.

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Hamburger

The Hamburger

Little boy begging

To Bribe or not to Bribe

Rewards just motivate people to get rewards. Bribing needs to escalate to maintain efficacy and will produce an attitude of entitlement. External motivation isn’t entirely bad, but children should be weened off of it once they adopt the desired trait/s. Offering 2-3 options and the ability to choose/take part in tasks whenever possible will increase a child’s internal motivation.

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Go for Their Heart

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Appeal to Their Progress

Parents appeal to the progress of your children. Highlight the progress the child is making as a motivator to grow, and to demonstrate perseverance, patience, diligence, and compassion, i.e. character development. Focus on the accomplishments, instead of what’s wrong, and your tone will change from bitter to encouraging.

Little girl reading a book

Tell a Good Story

When a child’s curiosity is cultivated, they thrive. Don’t undermine a child’s capacity to understand – often when they understand the reason behind
something, they will happily comply. A story can be a very powerful way to illuminate a reason behind something, while piquing a child’s curiosity, and even stimulating areas of their brain. Stories are more memorable and can be recalled more easily than information. In order for this to work, your story must contain interesting details & a plot, and you must be emotionally connected to it.

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Follow Their Passion

It is difficult to do something if our heart isn’t in it. Once our passion is activated, we find value in experiences and enjoy them thoroughly. Adolescent years are the perfect training ground to discover what a child’s passions may be. You can tell what passions are because a child can spend hours involved in a task without much pressure from you. Support them as they continue to develop their natural gifts and passions and you will face less resistance and more compliance. They will grow up with the ability to set goals for themselves, with a higher ability to persevere and a higher motivation.

Dad and son running by the beach

Parenting: Today and Yesterday

In this week’s podcast our hosts, along with Dr. Alicia La Hoz and our guest, Bill Ferrell, discuss the good, the bad and the ugly of the varying generational parenting styles. Which should you consider using and which should you consider ditching? Tune in to find out.

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Please Silence your Cell Phone

Is your smartphone’s screen kidnapping your time? Although technology gives us a lot of conveniences and comfort, if we don’t keep it in check, it can create a lot of relationship problems. Our screens can be the barrier keeping us from enjoying each other’s presence, listening to each other, and connecting. This week, we encourage you to think about some ground rules that you can establish to make sure that technology doesn’t take over your life all together.

Mini Me

Mini Me

Children do what parents do, not necessarily what parents tell them to do. How are your actions shaping the life of your children? Tune in to this podcast to learn more.

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The Worth of Self-Worth

Often times the values we have don’t necessarily show in our everyday actions. This can make teaching and passing down values to our children very difficult. As parents, we may want kids to “do as I say, not as I do” and that most definitely does not work. Parents: How are your actions shaping the life of your children?

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First & Foremost

Being able to develop a strong bond with your child is important. The sooner you do, the better it is for their well being. The question is how do you do it? Dr. La Hoz explains that it’s actually pretty simple – all you have to do is be present in the life of your child. Tune in to the podcast for more.
Featuring: Dr. Alicia La Hoz, Janette Avila, Omar Ramos & Veronica Avila

False Intimacy Fallout

False Intimacy Fallout

Are you rejecting your kids by disregarding or ignoring them? Kids grow fast, if you don’t spend time with them now, it may be too late later. Tune in for more.
Special Guest: Jonathan Alarcon
Resident Expert: Dr. Alicia La Hoz
Hosts: Omar Ramos & Veronica Avila

TheMagicOfChildhood

The Magic of Childhood

Childhood is inherently magical, even when it’s not perfect. How much fairy dust do we need to sprinkle on our children to make it more magical? Tune in to find out…
Special Guest: Marcela Saldeña
Resident Expert: Dr. Alicia La Hoz
Hosts: Omar Ramos & Veronica Avila

ParentBurnout

Parent Burnout

When spouses are not getting their love needs met by each other, partly because they’re attending to the demands of their children, each partner will often look elsewhere to have their relationship needs met. Tune in to get insight and tips on small things you can do as a couple to keep the spark alive.
Special Guests: Dr. Nadia Persun & Greg Persun
Resident Expert: Dr. Alicia La Hoz
Hosts: Omar Ramos & Veronica Avila

MomWow

Mom Wow - Mother's Day Special

“Mothers and their children are in a category all on their own. There’s no bond so strong in the entire world. No love so instantaneous and forgiving.” Tune in to this week’s special Mother’s Day podcast edition where we talk about how we are like our moms and how they put the WOW in MOM.
Special Guests; Richard Lara, Isabel Miranda, Frederick Ford Beckley, Karina Arceo
Resident Expert: Dr. Alicia La Hoz
Hosts: Omar Ramos & Veronica Ávila

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Spend Time Wisely

As parents, we want the best for our children. Which means we spend and focus most of our time on them. The problem is that focusing so much on our children distracts us from fostering a relationship with our spouse.  And if our relationship with our spouse suffers, in the end, our children suffer because the quality of the couple’s relationship directly impacts the children. Tune in to this week’s podcast for insight and tips on what we can do as parents and as a couple to nurture and balance our relationships.
Special Guest: Rick Rivero
Resident Expert: Dr. Alicia La Hoz
Hosts: Omar Ramos & Veronica Avila

SettingBoundaries

Setting Boundaries

Boundaries within the family are important. Children will chip away at your privacy and will invade all of your space, time and energy if you let them. You have to work at protecting your privacy. This means protecting your couple time by having regular date nights. Tune in to this week’s podcast to gain some insight on how to help set boundaries.
Special Guest: Eddie Morales
Resident Expert: Dr. Alicia La Hoz
Hosts: Omar Ramos & Veronica Avila

Single father carrying his daughter on his back on a sunny day

Single Parenting

Being a single parent is a hard and challenging job. This week on The Struggle is Real, we talk to Desmond Clark, former NFL player for the Chicago Bears. He shares his stories with us of his younger years, as well as his perspectives on parenting in the 21st century.
Special Guest: Desmond Clark
Resident Expert: Dr. Alicia La Hoz
Hosts: Omar Ramos & Veronica Avila

Two red balloons in shape of a heart floating during sunshine

Self-Love vs. Self-Hatred

Be caring, compassionate and mindful with your children and they will most likely emulate that with others. Tune in to this week’s podcast and get tips on how you can expose your children to service and giving to others so they can find the joy of giving and the contentment of having a life that is purpose-driven.
Special Guest: Dr. Charles Woehr
Resident Expert: Dr. Alicia La Hoz
Hosts: Omar Ramos & Veronica Avila

Dad lifting up his son and daughter of joy after getting home from work

Father's Day Special

Everyone has been influenced by their fathers – and whether our experience was happy, painful, or tragic, we can’t deny the impact that they have had on our lives. Our guests for this special discuss memories they have with their fathers, lessons that they learned, and what their relationship with their father is like today. Tune into this week’s podcast to hear about we have learned from our dads and the importance of fatherhood: #TheStruggleIsReal #TSIR
Special Guest: Bill Ferrell, Eddie Morales

Orange haired teen screaming and covering ears

The Defiant Child

Children have different temperaments, which influences how their parents respond to them. A child with an easy temperament who is complacent by nature tends to receive more praise from their parents, teachers and caregivers. A child who has difficult temperament and who needs repeated redirection and discipline can wear down those who take care of them. How do you handle your own emotions when dealing with a child who is pushing all of your buttons?

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Stay Humble

Parenting can be a humbling experience in many respects. At times, you may lash out at your children when they frustrate your goals. When this happens, and you seek forgiveness from your children, this exercise in humility is a growing experience for you and for them. Stay humble and admit when you are wrong.

Special Guest: Raquel Toledo, A Gift of Value

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Love or Fear

Parents today are often criticized for raising a generation of children who struggle to do things on their own, who return home from college incapable of earning a living or making decisions. The trouble with hovering excessively over children is that it stifles their potential for growing into confident adults who can step out into an unknown world and face the consequences of their decisions responsibly. Tune in for more.

The Struggle is Real - The Invisible String

The Invisible String

Being able to develop a strong bond with your child is important. The sooner you do, the better it is for their well being. The question is how do you do it? Dr. La Hoz explains that it’s actually pretty simple – all you have to do is be present in the life of your child. Tune in to the podcast for more.

Featuring: Dr. Alicia La Hoz, Janette Avila, Omar Ramos & Veronica Avila

The Struggle is Real - Let go & Let God

Let Go & Let God

Parents today are often criticized for raising a generation of children who struggle to do things on their own, who return home from college incapable of earning a living or making decisions. The trouble with hovering excessively over children is that it stifles their potential for growing into confident adults who can step out into an unknown world and face the consequences of their decisions responsibly.

The Struggle Is Real: Book

Think of this book as a guide for navigating through your toddler’s, teenager’s or young adult’s emotions and behaviors. You’ll learn how to turn the struggle into a success. You and your children will be all the better for it.

About the panel

Alicia La Hoz

Dr. Alicia La Hoz
Resident Expert

Omar Ramos

Omar Ramos
Host

Veronica Avila

Veronica Avila
Host

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